One of the most dangerous tricks our brain plays on us – from a time-spent perspective – is convincing us that everything on our to-do list is equally urgent and important.
For a rational and simple way of organizing the multitude of tasks we all have in a given day/week/month/year, search the “Eisenhower Matrix.”
This matrix helps us organize chaos. Here it is in one sentence: If a task is truly important, either do it now (if urgent) or schedule it, and if a task is less (or un-) important, delegate it or eliminate the task altogether.
There are better and worse ways to get feedback on anything. The worst way is to ask a closed-ended question (any question that can be answered with yes or no). The best always involves open-ended questions.
Big companies seem to ask useless questions whose answers are not actionable. This happens when their goal is to obtain enough quantitative data to tell a story like: “93% of people recommend this software.” That’s nice, but make sure you also ask those people what they’d REALLY like from you.
In my experience, out of the hundreds of possible questions you could ask (assuming you really want feedback and not validation), there is one that proves most useful: “How can this be improved?”
“What is the one thing I can do, such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”
This is one of the most powerful focusing questions you can ask yourself. You won’t always find a magic bullet that renders everything else unnecessary, but there is an emotionally stabilizing effect of just deciding to focus on one thing to the exclusion of all else.
There are infinite ways to direct your energy. There is no power like that of consciously directing yours where it’s most beneficial.
No matter your work ethic or intelligence, luck is a major variable in any successful outcome. I learned a phrase that’s worth sharing: “increase the surface area of luck.”
It’s almost impossible to connect dots forward, but easy in hindsight. Who knew that offering helpful advice would turn a stranger into an investor? How could you have foreseen that selflessly promoting someone’s work would lead to a lifelong relationship with one of that person’s close friends?
Increasing the surface area means expanding your influence, assistance, wealth and knowledge with others. This catapults the probability that so-called serendipities, unexplainable circumstances, and unpredictable luck will seem to land in your lap.
Wise people seek advice from others who may know more. But we need to evaluate any advice in light of our current needs. There is no universally perfect guidance for some dilemmas, especially when it comes to money and career advice.
Quit your day job to “follow your dreams” is not sensible advice for most people.
Even intelligent, well-intended people may make the mistake of advising you through the lens of their own experience, and they won’t have to live with the outcomes. There is plenty of great advice – just make sure whatever you act on is useful and relevant for you, right now.
Sometimes the voice of our ancient, inner primate lures us towards decisions that we know will be harmful. In other words, we know it’s “wrong” but we still want to do it. This can produce an agonizing internal ethical debate.
One hack to allow your higher-self to gain control is to consider how you’ll feel afterward. Let the feeling (often guilt) sink in. Ruminating in the awful hangover rather than the short-term taste of the drink can diminish the thrill of drinking.
Drinking of course is a metaphor for any decision that you know doesn’t serve you.