Imposter syndrome creeps up on those of us who communicate (hopefully useful) ideas publicly. Although I share advice online, I’m aware that it’s all been said – probably by people smarter than me. So who am I to advise others?
It’s important to understand that execution matters just as much as ideas. I’ve read multiple books on a topic only to have something finally click with me when I stumbled on a particular perspective.
It probably has all been said before. But perhaps not better, or in a way that resonates with and inspires people.
When I worked for a Fortune 10 company, our team had mutual access to each others’ calendars. Naturally people scheduled meetings in open time slots. It makes sense – open spaces on a calendar were viewed as “free” time, and an invitation to schedule something.
Since then I’ve learned to guard my time and create meetings with myself, not only to allow time for my own creative or professional or deep work, but even to plan my social or otherwise “free” time, in an intentional way.
Don’t confuse someone’s free time with their availability.
“Seize the moment” is trite and pervasive wisdom.
But if we observe our thoughts we’ll find that most of the time we are future-planning or past-regretting. This creates anxiety over what may (or may not) come to pass, or disappointment over what already did.
Cliche or not, it makes sense to remind yourself multiple times per day to be centered, present, and essentially…where you are.
One thing I enjoy doing is distilling complex ideas into actionable concepts. That is in fact one of the objectives of this blog. No matter how much you read or how many opinions you consider, in the end, you’ll have to decide what to do with all of it.
Since not everyone’s brain works in a way that allows them to simplify, here are some questions you can ask – preferably to the most knowledgeable experts – to extract something actionable:
1) Given all that you know…what action would you encourage me to take?
2) What do you think is the risk of not taking that action?
Anger is a useful emotion if we need to physically defend ourselves. Outside of that, nothing good comes of it. Regardless of how warranted it is, you’re not affecting the subject of your anger.
To paraphrase the historical Buddha: Anger is a hot coal that you hold onto while waiting to throw at someone.
Let it go for your own well-being.
The “cause vs. correlation” problem can be summarized like this: Just because A and B are related doesn’t mean that A caused B. We are often quick to assign meaning to any two pieces of data that seem to be connected.
A book called Spurious Correlations points out dozens of things that are correlated, but for which only a lunatic would believe there was a causal relationship. Among my favorites: It turns out that between 2000 and 2009 the divorce rate in Maine is perfectly correlated with the per capita consumption of margarine.
Before concluding that consuming margarine causes divorces in Maine, perhaps we can think to ourselves: Did A really cause B? Is there even a connection here?
One of the most dangerous tricks our brain plays on us – from a time-spent perspective – is convincing us that everything on our to-do list is equally urgent and important.
For a rational and simple way of organizing the multitude of tasks we all have in a given day/week/month/year, search the “Eisenhower Matrix.”
This matrix helps us organize chaos. Here it is in one sentence: If a task is truly important, either do it now (if urgent) or schedule it, and if a task is less (or un-) important, delegate it or eliminate the task altogether.
There are better and worse ways to get feedback on anything. The worst way is to ask a closed-ended question (any question that can be answered with yes or no). The best always involves open-ended questions.
Big companies seem to ask useless questions whose answers are not actionable. This happens when their goal is to obtain enough quantitative data to tell a story like: “93% of people recommend this software.” That’s nice, but make sure you also ask those people what they’d REALLY like from you.
In my experience, out of the hundreds of possible questions you could ask (assuming you really want feedback and not validation), there is one that proves most useful: “How can this be improved?”
“What is the one thing I can do, such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”
This is one of the most powerful focusing questions you can ask yourself. You won’t always find a magic bullet that renders everything else unnecessary, but there is an emotionally stabilizing effect of just deciding to focus on one thing to the exclusion of all else.
There are infinite ways to direct your energy. There is no power like that of consciously directing yours where it’s most beneficial.