Our continuing education

While it’s impossible for our education system to predict what money-making skills will be most valued in 15-20 years, certain skills are undeniably useful for everyone: conflict resolution, empathy, sustaining meaningful relationships, mindfulness, critical thinking, managing anger and other emotions, practical financial acumen, and others we know we need.

We don’t have to wait for institutions to upgrade.  We can impart valuable knowledge to the next generation.  As adults, we can (and should) take the opportunity to level up.  Wisdom, education, and improvement don’t end with the last test you were forced to take.

Negotiating well

Consider the following in addition to whatever advice you’ve received on negotiating:

  • People (especially those who negotiate often) will remember the person you are and how you carried yourself throughout the negotiation, not necessarily the deal itself
  • No matter the outcome, being respectful and acknowledging the other side’s position never works against you.

My personal goal in negotiating is to get the most I can while doing my best to play the game in such a way that I would get invited back to play again.

 

This gives away all your power

“As soon as” syndrome happens when you make your next move – or worse, your happiness – contingent on something else happening.

There is rarely a perfect time to do anything worthwhile.

You have the power to determine what you do right now.  Don’t give it away to people or circumstances you don’t control.  You are the CEO of you.  Be a good one.

 

Intentions and behavior

Most of us tend to judge others by their actions, but judge ourselves based on our intentions.

One without the other is impure.  Let’s look for opportunities to let other peoples’ actions slide, and occasionally seek out (or even assume) that they have good intentions.  After all, we’re doing that with ourselves.

Breaking the ice

Every culture has unwritten rituals, many of which apply to meeting people for the first time.  Your culture influences what you see as “normal”.

It’s possible to choose perspectives that serve us even better than the ones we were given at birth.  When we first meet people it’s common to feel the need to “break the ice”, the metaphorical wall that separates us.

What if we chose to act as if there were no ice in the first place?

Investing in your future self

There are many ways to make frequent, incremental changes that yield meaningful long-term results.

Investing a portion of the money you earn is wise and practical, but need not apply only to finances.  Every small action you take today that advances ‘future you’ is beneficial.

This means everything from getting your running clothes out for the morning, or writing down tomorrow’s priorities before bed tonight, to spending ten minutes per day doing that thing you want to become an expert in.

Important but non-urgent tasks determines future you.

Are you a chef or a cook?

‘Chef’ and ‘cook’ are incorrectly used as synonyms.  Cooks excel when they can implement recipes created by others, perhaps with their own added flare.

Chefs invent recipes.  They use first principles as ingredients, and achieve outcomes using creative means, sometimes constructing something never seen before.

Copy or create?  Conventional wisdom or new design?  Neither is superior.  There is a wise place for each.  Food is just a metaphor here.  It’s valuable to reflect on whether you’re operating as one or the other in each important area of your life.