Asking things like “why does this always happen to me?” is detrimental to our well-being. Your subconscious doesn’t understand rhetorical questions and immediately goes to work on answers.
You will only uncover negative answers like “because I’m not worthy” or “because I always make bad decisions”. Always replace “Why is this happening to me?” with “What is the smartest thing to do next?”
This creates an inclination towards action and automatically bulldozes negativity. It’s not possible to simultaneously problem-solve and beat yourself up.