Whether or not we’re aware, we attempt to live up to our own expectations based on how we grade ourselves. Some grade themselves by how much wealth they accumulate. Others feel accomplished by transforming their bodies, building a business, or raising well-adjusted children.
I grade myself on how useful I can be (hopefully this blog is an example). This is my own internal measure, so there’s no right answer, reward or penalty.
It pays to be deliberate about what we choose to value. And fortunately, once we’re out of school, we get to decide how we’re graded.