Our need for approval has us pursuing unfulfilling careers and relationships, and saying “yes” out of obligation rather than desire. The culprit is the voice in our heads that says “what will they think of me?”
The pill for this is self-reflection, and a commitment to exploring your own operating system, and true aspirations.
Three perspectives that have helped me on this:
- Others’ opinions of me are not my business.
- My world revolves around me but everyone else’s doesn’t (people think of us far less than we think, or at least, far less than we do).
- The #1 deathbed regret globally is that people lived their lives as they believed others thought they should.