People perceive you as being confident, trustworthy, happy, or otherwise mostly because of how you carry yourself. As a first impression, your body language and mannerisms matter even more than substance.
To make it more interesting, here’s what we know from science about straightening up, smiling, avoiding fidgeting, and other basic body language patterns:
- Testosterone, a confidence-enhancing hormone for both genders, increases 20%
- Cortisol, a stress hormone that impedes performance, decreases 25%.
Cool reasons to straighten up and act the part.
Practice these three things and your happiness level goes up:
These are not mere words to display in a quote on top of an inspirational, rainbow-filled background. “Practice” them. Look for opportunities to DO these things.
You’ll notice in your own experience that it’s impossible to be simultaneously grateful and feel lack, to forgive and clench the poison of a grudge, and to devote some of your resources to someone in need, and still feel scarcity.
A friend reminded me that for some of us, harmful stress is directly correlated to our real or perceived notion of being out of control of our lives.
An effective antidote then is to manage the variables that allow you to feel like you’re in better control. Even simple things. Look over tomorrow’s schedule before going to bed. Plan that difficult conversation before things get worse. Clean your car. Prepare your next several meals.
Psychologically, it doesn’t matter much whether you actually are in better control of your life. It matters that you believe you are.
It’s so easy to make ourselves and others feel good about us with our theoretical values. “If I had a million dollars I’d donate a percentage.”
Sounds nice. But you have more leverage, power, and influence than you think, and you don’t need to wait for anything else to happen. The option to help others is available right now, on a very small scale.
So if you’re interested in helping people “as soon as” something else happens, maybe practice by helping the very next human you come in contact with.