What we want vs. what’s on offer

Most of us don’t think about what we want in terms of a blank canvas.

Ask a middle-aged man what he REALLY wants to do in his career and he’ll restate his resume, telling you what he thinks the market will allow him to do.

It’s unfortunate that we make decisions about our career by how we think people view us, or by the job offers we got; the kind of person we want to date by only considering one of the people who asked us out; where we want to go on vacation by what we think we can afford today, and what we really want to eat tonight by the handful of restaurants we’ll pass on the way home.

Asking “what do I really want?” doesn’t cost anything, and allows you to consider that there’s more on offer than the menu right in front of you.

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