Perhaps the biggest lie perpetuated in the self-improvement world is that achievement = fulfillment. But we know well-loved, uber high-achieving people who were still unhappy and unfulfilled (Robin Williams for example).
Chasing and achieving success are not bad things, unless your happiness is completely contingent on them.
Define and chase fulfillment instead.
We suffer because we find ourselves in conditions that are at odds with our expectations.
The simple antidote – which is not simple in practice – is to trade expectation for appreciation. This is true regardless of your position on Maslow’s Hierarchy.
Why? It turns out that it’s impossible to be simultaneously upset and truly grateful. Gratitude may be the most important attribute we can develop.
It’s easy to go against our true nature, beliefs, and authentic selves, because the crowd (or our tribe) may not approve.
Throughout history countless men and women followed their truths regardless of the cost to their egos or wallets. And because of that they were amazing, shining examples to the rest of us.
The mindfulness movement then, starts with being aware of our truth.
You are precisely where you are today primarily due to the energy you put into past decisions. Want to change future outcomes? It’s a simple formula (simple, yet difficult yet worthwhile to implement):
C+E=O. Choices + Energy = Outcomes.
The Choices you make + the Energy you put in = your Outcome.
It just happens that the accronym is “CEO”, reminding us that we are the CEOs of our lives.
Hat tip: Anmar Sarafa
Those of us who make an effort to kill our egos and exhibit humility struggle with how to handle compliments.
It’s tempting to be humble and turn a compliment down, but this simultaneously shuns their words (insulting you) and tells them they are wrong (insulting them). This is an inconsiderate conversation killer.
Here’s a simple response to replace “Naaaaah” or “I disagree” that allows you to remain humble, validate their words, and express gratitude:
“Thank you. That’s very kind of you.” (Simple, right?)