Why you shouldn’t tell your kid she’s perfect

Modern psychology exposes unintended negative effects of telling our kids they’re “good” or “perfect” because of specific accomplishments.

When we associate results with who people “are”, we hold them to a standard.  “You’re a smart kid because you got good grades” equals “You’re not smart if you don’t get good grades.”

Long term, we bring out the very best in people when we reward effort over attributes.

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