I can already hear you judging the young girl that spent two hours crafting the perfect selfie, then removed it from Instagram when it didn’t get enough likes.
Yes she probably overvalues external validation. Yes intrinsic confidence is healthier. But she has some important business attributes and lessons for us.
If most adults applied that level of hustle, work ethic and market testing to our business lives we’d spend less time complaining about “kids these days”, and more energy making and selling things valued by the market. Step up your game.
You’ll barely notice the effect of scarfing down ice cream tonight. Do that tomorrow, and consistently over time, and get diabetes. Practicing guitar (or swimming, or a foreign language) for 15 minutes a day won’t produce noticeable results the first week. But 15 minutes per day is over 90 hours of concentrated practice over a one-year time frame.
Minor habits practiced consistently over time produce momentum, and lead to surprising outcomes.
The book 5 Love Languges shows how each person has “languages” (words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, physical touch) we use to both express love and measure our own fulfillment of the love we receive. And we speak and care about each to different degrees.
The biggest take-away is the realization that “treat others as you would have them treat you” isn’t always great advice, since not everyone wants to be treated as you do. It’s worthwhile then to notice your own biases (and languages) as well as your partner’s.
The first step in AA is admitting you have an alcohol problem. The first step in improving your finances is examining your current assets and spending habits. The first step in improving your mindset is taking inventory of your beliefs, biases, inner dialogue and habits.
No matter where you want to go, step one is being mindful, introspective and most of all, honest enough to notice where you are now.
It may not be easy to see the similarities between you and the CEO of a large company (assuming you’re not one). But just like those CEOs, you make hundreds of decisions every day about what you do, with whom you associate, and how you carry yourself. And perhaps most important:
- You are accountable each decision
- Your decisions have consequences that affect other lives
Like it or not, you are the CEO of You, Inc. Represent your brand well.