A couple concepts and mantras that have made it easier for me to deal with people that would normally frustrate me:
- Other people’s opinions of me are not my business
- Don’t expect that everyone manages change, adversity, business, or human relationships the way I would, or with the same integrity
- Learn to love people because of their idiosyncrasies, not despite them
This is the first generation of children growing up in a world where don’t have to wait to be picked. They don’t have to convince gatekeepers of their value. They can do work that matters without permission, simply because they decide to.
In the words of Seth Godin – one of my favorite authors, mentors and human beings: “You are more powerful than you think. Act accordingly.”
It’s not enough to work hard, do things well, or do things efficiently without questioning whether each thing needs to be done.
The real hard work is deciding what to do that will be valuable and make a difference.
Your brain doesn’t understand “no”. Your energy goes where your attention goes. Try this: DON’T think of a giraffe. (We both know what just happened.)
Business clients give us lists of what they don’t want. When life presents a problem or a decision, we often consider what we don’t want to happen, to deal with, or to feel anymore.
Here’s a better question that bulldozes negative thoughts: “What would be ideal?”